When children are told not to cry and stop crying before they are ready, feeling an unconscious need to obey their parents, some of their feelings are left clenched up inside them. This can lead to depression or anger.
With schools shut across the country and colleges and businesses going online, families are stuck together at home with no options such as eating out, going to the theatre, or daycare to relieve the stress, since social distancing is advised right now. What to do? Watch TV and play video games nonstop?
Parenting is an instinct you are born with. It tells you what to do with your child; it tells you to feed them after birth, to change their diapers, and care for them as they grow. You cannot learn to parent by taking a class because parenting is not a lesson you can learn through study.
The 50's, 60's, and 70's were known prevalent years for spanking. While acknowledging that many good things did arise from the progress of those times, the amount of spanking that occurred is one of the reasons I do not like them. And, in that dislike, I often forget there are stories within the millions. I forget there are people who stood against the common parenting practices of the day and did not give "little Billy the spanking he deserved".
Perhaps, being a minority, they are not thought of.
I think of them now.
Almost every mother who breastfeeds will experience having their nipples chewed at by their babies. But that is no reason not to breastfeed! The next time your child bites, with this simple tip, you can stop nipple chewing without punishing, shaming, or hurting.
A foster child, Jay Baker has been alone since birth. With no one to talk to, his journal pages become his family as he chronicles his journey toward adoption.
Solomon was wise. But, when it came to children, he was a failure. He taught his son violence and his son continued that cycle. Why? And, more importantly, how?
Your relationship with your children is as important as your relationship with your spouse. A strong bond is what allows you to connect when troubles arise within your family or in your child's life and find good solutions. All that comes with connection.
We hear about children respecting their parents and we hear about what happens to them when they do not; children can be sent to their rooms, spanked, grounded, or scolded.
But what about PARENTS respecting their CHILDREN?
"Is it true you do not spank me because I am blind?"
Father said nothing. Only his breathing sounded as Miles' heart sank. It was true, after all. It was not love; it was because he was blind. Disabled. Different.
With the birth of their second child, many parents make a common mistake and focus so much attention on the new baby, they forget their firstborn.
Try these three methods to keep your first child involved with the second and harbor love between them instead of resentment.
Children love to explore forbidden territory and find out for themselves what all the fuss is about. The more you make the road into a forbidden place, the more your child will want to explore it. Try these methods to keep your child safe instead of scolding or spanking.