Respect: To feel or show honor or esteem for; hold in high regard. To show consideration for; avoid intruding upon or interfering with.
Disrespect: To show lack of Respect for. Lack of Respect or esteem.
Discipline: Treatment that corrects or punishes. Subject to discipline; train; control.
Punish: To cause to undergo pain, loss, or suffering for a crime or wrongdoing. To treat harshly or injuriously.
Chastise implies corporal punishments, and connotes both retribution and correction.
Correct suggests punishment for the purpose of overcoming faults.
Discipline suggests punishment that is intended to control or establish habits of self- control.
Chasten implies the infliction of tribulation in order to make one obedient, meek, etc. “He chastens and hastens His well to make known.”
We hear about children respecting their parents and we hear about what happens to them when they do not; children can be sent to their rooms, spanked, grounded, or scolded.
But what about PARENTS respecting their CHILDREN?
If children must respect their parents and are punished for not doing so, parents should return the favor. Parents should model the behavior they want to see in their children.
No one punishes parents for yelling at their children or taking away toys yet children are punished for screaming and taking things from their siblings. Perhaps if parents were subjected to the same treatment their children, they would learn to see things through their children’s eyes.
If one child bullies another, it is considered wrong. But if a parent enforces a rule by bullying them with the use of force and threats (Example: spanking) it is considered alright. If a child falls down and cuts himself, the wounds are treated and kissed. But the marks inflicted by a spanking are not worthy of comfort. Are they not marks that hurt the child and cause pain? Are they not marks deserving to be hugged?
Adults are considered to know what is right. They are the ones who judge what is wrong and what is right, and they are the ones who punish, and speak of respect.
Most adults respect other adults. They speak of respect to their children. They talk of a duty a child has to respect their parents. Yet those parents are also sometimes the ones who contradict themselves when they punish their children with spanking, disrespecting them with violence.
From the definitions of words such as punish, chastise, and discipline, it sounds like children are animals to be trained to obey, corrected and controlled when they do not follow the rules set for them. Are children equal to the puppies we train?
Humans see themselves as above animals because they can speak and do many things animals cannot. But we show our animalistic sides when we train and control and correct our children with the use of violence as if they are nothing more then a bad dog. What goes through a dog’s simple mind when they are smacked or scolded for doing wrong?
X equals smack equals pain. Not doing X will result in no pain.
What child in their right mind wants to feel the pain of a spanking?
It is fear that controls them. Disciplining and punishing a child by fear and pain is another form of bullying, which simply means to use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.
That is spanking in a nutshell. And it is not respectful. There is nothing respectful about violence and fear, and no honor in the action of inflicting both upon a small child to correct and control them by the use of superior strength to intimidate and influence them to obey and respect.
If parents want respect, as they see themselves fit to receive, return the favor and treat your child as you would like to be treated. If you would open your arms to a person who would smack you and embrace the pain and tears, do as you will. You are already in a bad spot. But if you consider it wrong and disrespectful, steer away from spanking and find another, non-violent way to teach your children how to behave. Behave simply means to act or conduct oneself in a specified way, especially toward others.
Behave yourself and keep the violence in check. Resist the urge to spank and give your children the respect they deserve in the same way you do.
Respect goes both ways.